Showing posts with label bereaved parents. surviving siblings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bereaved parents. surviving siblings. Show all posts

Monday, June 29, 2015

It's All Gone to the Dogs!

Everyone says it’s summer, but it takes me a moment to realize they're right!  Wow, how life has changed!  My summer used to be all about keeping the kids entertained, but now it’s about going to work, and only baring those glowing white legs in shorts on the weekend while I clean the house and do chores.  I haven’t seen the neighborhood pool in two years.

Don’t cry for me though, a couple of weeks ago I went to Nassau, Bahamas, with the women in my family for a lovely Girl’s Weekend.  This is a tradition that spans well over a decade.  On the first one to New York City, my sister-in-law was pregnant with my niece, and now on this trip,  “almost 16” year old Kayla joined us.  It’s a weekend to enjoy our girliness.  There’s always a spa visit involved, shopping, and a show…this time was Tony Bennett and Lady Gaga…a very interesting choice.
Mom and Stephi share a hug


We’re a pretty close family, so getting along is never an issue, and given the setting, it was a few days in paradise.  We played with dolphins, enjoyed some great food, and just basked in the bright colors and glorious sunsets of paradise. 

Lori and Me with our girls and a new friend.
Note to self:  When spraying aerosol sunscreen on your back, you must actually spray directly in the direction of your back, or you will get sunburned.  I thought I sprayed my back, but a few hours later, it was beet red.  Always the good wife, I blamed Brad, who was back in Virginia!  For 25 years he always applied lotion to my back so I was out of practice contorting my body to make sure I self-covered.

Meanwhile back home, Brad was dealing with heartbreak when our sweet old Yankee boy suffered a major neurological event which left him paralyzed. 

Moments before Yankee learned to jump into waves.

How could I not know this was happening?  I couldn’t access my email account for some reason.  Stephi could, so after a couple of days of sun and fun, I asked her to write to her dad and let him know I was thinking of him, but unable to email.  His response included the string of emails sharing the sad reality of Yankee’s illness.  The next day Brad sent a lovingly written note letting us know Yankee was gone.  For him it had been 4 heart-wrenching days, for us, it had only been  minutes to absorb what happened.
I was immediately overtaken by grief.  I not only mourned the loss of my loving furry companion, but I lost one more piece of my life with Josh.  I could barely speak as I sputtered out the news to Britt and Stephi who both immediately crumbled in tears.  This was the pup of their childhood; The last pet they shared with their brother. 
Sweet Yankee Boy!

The next day we returned to the same house we left only 5 days before, but it was so different.  For the first time in thirteen years there was no wagging tail to greet us.  I saw his things in the garage, and the medical supplies sat in the corner, serving as testament to Brad’s heroics efforts.  There was a paw print in clay on the counter;  This along with his collar became instant treasures.

The silence was starting to get to me....after a couple of weeks the quiet is too much.  When a cat you nickname Stealth Kitty is the only noise in the house, something's gotta change!
I started looking through the various shelter websites for our next pup, much to Brad's chagrin.  He has dreams of jumping on a jet and seeing the world at a moment's notice, but he knows me and loves me enough to support my search for a new family dog. 

We decided to forgo the puppy stage and adopt a non-shedding small dog from a local shelter.  It seemed innocent enough.  The first weekend, Stephi and I laid out our roadmap to visit three shelters that had dogs which met our criteria.  I was very hopeful for the first one;  An adorable Havanese who looked so happy in his beautifully posed photo.  The initial hello was great, so we asked to meet him.  This adorable dog bounced into the room, said hello to us, instantly saw the toys, and went into piranha mode “killing” every toy in the room.  Turns out he was returned for doing that to cats…..this was not a good match for Stealth Kitty, so we had to say goodbye.

The other dogs were adopted before we arrived, and all that was left were big and beautiful shedding babies.  Not a good mix for one with asthma tendencies.  As time went on, every time I found a potential dog, he/she was adopted before my eyes.  I even started to fall for the adorable puppies, but Brad held his ground.
Who knew it would be this competitive?   I was growing impatient and slightly obsessive, so I stepped it up and recruited both girls to search with me.  Together we scoured shelter websites daily.  Finally, we all noticed the same adorable mini doodle named Alex. I immediately called about him, and was actually asked to submit an application.  I took this as a positive sign.

How hard could it be?
Let me just say I am so glad I didn’t have to fill out this application when my babies were born because I’m not sure I would have passed.  I understand the thought and heart behind it, but it is a bit intimidating.  I  suddenly wondered if I had the muster to raise this pup after caring for 5 dogs,  4 cats, 6 hamsters, 4 turtles and 20 fish.

I emailed my application within minutes.   Now all I can do is sit and wait.  God Grant me Patience, but do it now. 

While our country is celebrating Independence Day, I hope to be cuddling a new friend.

I'll let you know how it goes.

Hugs!
Sherri

Friendship isn’t about who you’ve known the longest, but it’s about who came and never left your side. ~Unknown

Saturday, January 24, 2015

Fortune Cookies and Beignets

How many fortune cookies are too much?  I'm mean, what’s the magic number we are allowed to eat in one sitting? It's part of my attempt to live life on the edge in 2015!   

I think I started it out right with a trip to New Orleans and Brittany's 21st birthday.  Yikes!  Where are those fortune cookies!

Earlier in the Fall, I talked Brad into a trip with the girls.   It's part of my personal goal which is to continue to do fun things as a family;  Not become that family that stares at each other 4-5 hours at Christmas and Easter.   After some pondering and visiting the piggy bank, we decided to go to the Big Easy.   Our goals were simple:  Warm weather, beignets, give Stephi a chance to hear some French Creole, and celebrate Brittany’s 21st birthday.  

Flights and hotel were soon booked, so all we had to do was wait.
First came Thanksgiving, my most dreaded holiday since Joshua’s death in 2010.  Luckily,  the 3rd Annual Joshua Newman 5K followed quickly.  This year we raised $9,000 for EMFIT Seizure monitors for those families unable to afford them.  The event is always so wonderful, and so bittersweet…I love the support, the kids, the families.   My heart still wishes I was home just chillin’ with Josh.   















We waited through December when the girls returned for Winter/Christmas Break.  Soon the house was brimming with tweeting, cell phone rings, and laughing  teens/twentysomethings ploppin’ down on the couch to watch Christmas movies.  We sang the familiar hymns by candlelight, zipped through Christmas, and brought the tree down a couple of days later as part of kitty proofing the house for our trip preparation.    

My birthday came along the way, so a group of soccer moms piled into a couple of vans and  hit the local karaoke bar where we sang loud and proud albeit slightly out of tune.  At the end of the evening I sang “Midnight Train to Georgia”  the unofficial love song between Brad and me, with my very own Pips, backing me up. 
 
New Year’s Eve came and went, then it was time to throw our suitcases in the taxi and head to the airport.   I gotta admit, when I was waiting for the trip to come, I never imagined this kind of wait after we boarded the plane.
  
Vacation begins. Jet Engine 1 not working; Back to gate. Engine fixed in 1 hour;
Pilot announces end of their shift; must bring on new crew -1 hour.
Crew not replaced, let us know they'll do their best to get us there safely even though they've been working since 8 am.....
Passenger freaks out. Doesn't want to die at the hands of tired pilots. Wait for someone to escort her to gate and must remove her luggage-1 hour. 3 hour delay in all. Come through lightening and high winds.
 I think the flight attendant said it best......
We're sorry for the long delays but really just glad we got here.

It was so worth the wait!

Just trying to teach my girl some real life skills.  Drink responsibly!
Love = Beignets!
















Photo bombing Stephi's selfie at Jackson Square!

Birthday Balloons on Bourbon Street. Say it 5x fast!

Then just like that, everything we were waiting for was over. 

The girls left and it became waaayyyyy too quiet!  To stay busy and get into the spirit of the new year, I thought I would organize my whole house, work out 3 hours, diet and save money for 2015.  Instead I stayed in my pjs, binge watched Gilmore Girls, and ordered Chinese take out which brought me the fortune cookies I'm binging on, and some great insight to follow in the new year. 

I'm open to suggestions.....
  • Hearty laughter is a good way to jog internally without having to go outdoors.
  • Two days from now, tomorrow will be yesterday
  • A new voyage will fill your life with untold memories. 
Here's to new adventures in 2015.

Hugs!

Sherri